Judgement

On Sunday we had a great lesson in Relief Society, I usually don't get to listen too often because Tate doesn't really allow for it but this Sunday Josh took Tate with him to Priesthood and well it was kind of nice. And I really must have needed to hear the lesson. It was on Judging others and Righteous judgement. What is the difference, how do you Judge someone righteously? Well you really can't. You can make a judgement of whether or not you are going to do something but that doesn't mean you judge the person if you don't agree with the choice they make or the things they do. I liked this lesson for two reasons:

1. I think it is very important I teach Tate the difference between the two, we don't judge others for things they do or don't do but you don't have to do something your friends are doing if it is against what you believe in. AND it is still okay to still be friends with them and be nice to them.

2. I will never judge my Kids' friends for the act of their parents, growing up my family was not the traditional family, my mom didn't go to church or anything like that, and I had friends whose parents I believe made that judgement my way, or at least that was how I felt as a kid. I know I never want that to be the case with any Tate's friends.

3. I will do my best to not Judge someone's acts because I will truley never understand or know the circumstance to which brought them to that decision. We don't always know the whole truth or what has caused a person to make the decisions they have, all we can do is be there for eachother and try to understand eachothers needs.

4. I will never judge someone for what their faith is, I know someone very close to me judges me because of my religion and I don't think that is fair. I would never make a judgement on somone for their beliefs.

5. And last but not least, I will do my best to not assume others are judging me or judge myself based off of what I see other Wonderful Mom's do! I think in today's society we see the "perfect world" everyone I think lives in and I compare myself, now I know that I shouldn't do that and I worry what people might think if my house is a mess or if I am not back to that size 4 I once was but I do. ( I mean really who actually has time to worry about what I am doing, i know I don't have time to worry about what other people are doing :) ).

It was a great lesson and these are just some of the most random rambles that came into my thoughts. I am very grateful for everything in my life and for wonderful teachers in Relief Society that can helps us be better for eachother and our families.